Daniel Todd Gilbert He is a famous social psychologist and American writer. He is the professor at Harvard University, and is known for his research on the affective prediction. Author of the international bestseller “Tripping over happiness”, which has been translated into more than 30 languages and won the Aventis Prize in 2007. He has also written essays for several newspapers and magazines, has made a short television series and has done talks for TED.
Famous quotes Dan Gilbert
One of the cruelest truths in life is that wonderful things are especially wonderful the first time they occur, but their marvels fades with repetition.
The brain and the eye have a contractual relationship in which the brain has committed to believe what the eye sees, but in return the eye has committed to seek what the brain wants.
People are happier when they try to reach difficult goals but not out of reach.
Our desire to control is so powerful and the feeling of having control so rewarding that people often act as if they can control the uncontrollable.
As soon as I knew that the mistakes are interesting, I began to plan a life with several of them.
The good news is that going blind won't make you as unhappy as you think it will be. The bad news is that winning the lottery will not make you as happy as you expect.
Most people do quite well when things go very badly.
The truth is that bad things do not affect us as deeply as we hope they do. That is true of good things, too. We adapt very quickly to either.
Emotion is a compass that tells us what to do. A compass that is perpetually stuck in a single point is useless.
The future is fundamentally different from what it seems through our own eyes.
The eye and the brain are conspirators and, like most conspiracies, negotiate behind closed doors, in the back room, outside our conscience.
The key to happiness, fulfillment and enlightenment, is to stop thinking so much about the future.
Not thinking about the future is much more difficult than being a psychology teacher.
Our emotions are meant to fluctuate, as is our blood pressure. It is a system that is supposed to move back and forth, between happy and unhappy. This is how the system guides us throughout the world.
In fact, thinking about the future can be so pleasant that sometimes we prefer to think about it instead of doing our best to get there.
Events that challenge our optimistic beliefs can sometimes make us more and not less optimistic.
Anticipating unpleasant events can minimize its impact.
What is the link between anxiety and planning? Both, of course, are intimately connected when we think about the future.
The secret of happiness is variety, but the secret of variety, like the secret of all spices, is knowing when to use it.
We are surprised when we expect something other than what we have, even when we didn't know we weren't expecting anything.
We treat our futures as if they were our children, spending most of the hours of most of our days building mornings that we hope will make them happy.
People have an excess of confidence in their judgments about others.
My friends tell me that I have a tendency to point out problems without offering solutions, but they have never told me what to do about it.
The greatest achievement of the human brain is its ability to imagine objects and episodes that do not exist in the realm of reality, and it is this ability that allows us to think about the future.
Surprise is an emotion we feel when we encounter the unexpected.
Young children cannot say what they want to be in the future because they do not really understand what the future means.
Fear, worry and anxiety have a very useful function to manage our lives.
It is better to be a dissatisfied human being than a satisfied pig; Better to be Socrates dissatisfied than a satisfied fool. And if the fool, or the pig, have a different opinion, it is because they only know their own side of the facts.
At some point between our chairs and our rocking chairs, we learn about the future.
If you are like most people, like most people, you don't know that you are like most people.
Unfortunately, even great ideas do not leave fossils for carbon dating.
Our brain accepts what the eyes see and our eyes look for what our brain wants.
Happiness refers to feelings, virtue refers to actions, and those actions can cause those feelings. But not necessarily and not exclusively.
The frontal lobe is the recent creation of the human brain that allows us to imagine the future.
The fact that we often judge the pleasure of an experience by its end, can cause us to do some really curious things.
We are unable to remember how we really feel in a situation, that is why our wealth of experiences turns out to be poverty of wealth.
Within a couple of weeks, even earthquake survivors return to their normal level of optimism.
Research suggests that people generally do not know the reasons why they are doing what they are doing, but when asked for a reason, they offer them easily.
Most of us seem to believe that we are more athletic, intelligent, organized, ethical, logical, interesting, open-minded and healthy, not to mention more attractive than an average person can be.
Each of us is trapped in a place, a time and a circumstance, and our attempts to use our mind to transcend those limits are mostly ineffective.
Reduce your cortisol level. Happier people have the lowest level of cortisol, a stress hormone that increases blood pressure and weakens the immune system. Reduce stress (do more yoga, lower your level of aggressiveness) and reduce cortisol production.
We prefer to hear the words of other people who have already been shortlisted by us about what we want to hear.
Which is more important: experience or memory of the experience? If you could have an hour of ecstasy that you would always remember as torture, or an hour of torture that you would always remember as ecstasy, which do you prefer?
We do not believe that other people's experiences can tell us much. I think this is an illusion of singularity.
Few of us can accurately measure how we will feel tomorrow or next week. That's why when you go to the supermarket on an empty stomach, you are going to buy too much, and if you buy after a great meal, you will buy very little.
We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have friends and almost all the other things that we think make us happy are really just ways to get more friends and family.
People want to be happy, and all the other things we want are only a means to that end.
We humans can think deeply about the future and anticipate disasters, but we still do nothing in the present to stop them. Most people on this planet are overwhelmed with concerns about their immediate well-being.
Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they are finished.
The data says that the poor, with a little money can buy a lot of happiness. If you are rich, a lot of money can buy a little more happiness. But in both cases, money does.
What would you do at this time if you knew you were going to die in ten minutes?